Absent Response

Overview
   Immature Behavior
   Background
   Assumptions
   Personal Thoughts
   How to Change

Parenting Responses
   Defensive
   Offensive
   Absent
   Present
Absent Response = a distracted response or no response at all because various parts of the brain are simply too busy (for various reasons--some good, some bad) to process any more information.

Without a mature prefrontal cortex leading the way, natural passion can consume a person's time and attention. Natural passion can be beautiful and wonderful in many instances...talent development is evidence of this. 

But in many parenting situations, an absent response can have negative effects. This happens when the parent is not there (obviously) or when the parent is self-absorbed in another activity during a time when the child has a need. The parent makes little eye contact and may say, “Uh-huh” without really comprehending what the child is saying or doing. Passion for something other than the child is the primary emotion associated with an absent response.